Day 29. The Art of Letting Go

[et_pb_section bb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section”][et_pb_row admin_label=”Row”][et_pb_column type=”2_3″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” background_layout=”light” text_orientation=”left” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#ffffff” border_style=”solid”]

“Letting Go” 6×6, oil on canvas [creativ_button url=”×6-oil-on-canvas/” icon=”” label=”Buy Now” colour=”red” colour_custom=”” size=”medium” edge=”straight” target=”_self”]

My son’s karate class is structured around a series of mantras which they shout enthusiastically as they complete a set of push ups or front kicks. In yesterday’s class, he passed his belt test and will be advancing to blue. The familiar mantra, “Goals we set, are goals we get,” rang particularly true as I watched his whole face light up with the good news of his success.

He didn’t get the blue belt the first time he tried a few months ago. I wanted so much to step in, and my God, I tried. Practice sessions in our living room were usually disasters– me giving too much information and him becoming easily frustrated. He’s six, I reluctantly remind myself. If my son has taught me anything, it’s that he will not, under any circumstances, be the mini-me I imagined not so much as a possibility but as the objective reality of parenting. That my child would be like me seemed a basic result of universal norms. I’ve been wrong before, and I’ll be wrong again.

I did not become a mother knowing that it would be a daily exercise in letting go.

In his own time, and with his own unique gifts, his unstoppable spirit, he achieves, he grows, he finds his way. I thought I could (and that I should) mold him into some super-human child. I’ve learned that he has everything he needs to be exactly who he is, and the more I accept it, the more in awe of him I become. He is assertive, brave, big-hearted, abundantly curious.

Last year I set a goal for him of learning to ride a bike without training wheels over the summer. He’s not there yet. While bike riding may be way up there on my list of things that one must do to lead a fulfilling life, his list– long, robust, and ever-growing, doesn’t quite include it yet.

Today’s painting is based on a photograph I took at the Mandeville lakefront several years ago. The photo has a woman in it leading the bike on the sidewalk. At first, I was most interested in her as the subject of the painting, but after a few attempts, I eliminated her all together from the composition. Maybe in my version, she has just let go.

[/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_3″][et_pb_sidebar admin_label=”Sidebar” orientation=”left” area=”sidebar-1″ background_layout=”light” remove_border=”off” /][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]

Picture of Denise Hopkins

Denise Hopkins

August 29, 2018

Share Post

One Response

Leave a Reply


Related Blog Posts

gallery wall oil paintings
July 2024, New Work Preview!

After kicking off 2024 with a (mostly) small painting a day in my annual 31 in 31 practice, I was...

View Post
Day 31. If you want to go far…

  “If You Want to go Far” 24×30 inches, oil on canvas I started this month with a bike, and...

View Post
Day 30. Reteach a thing its loveliness.

“The Bud Stands for All Things” 24×24 inches, oil on paper I discovered this poem last week by Galway Kinnell...

View Post

Discover more from Denise Hopkins Fine Art

Subscribe now to keep reading and get access to the full archive.

Continue reading

Privacy Policy

This following document sets forth the Privacy Policy for this website. We are bound by the Privacy Act 1988 (Crh), which sets out a number of principles concerning the privacy of individuals using this website.

Collection of your personal information

We collect Non-Personally Identifiable Information from visitors to this Website. Non-Personally Identifiable Information is information that cannot by itself be used to identify a particular person or entity, and may include your IP host address, pages viewed, browser type, Internet browsing and usage habits, advertisements that you click on, Internet Service Provider, domain name, the time/date of your visit to this Website, the referring URL and your computer’s operating system.

Free offers & opt-ins

Participation in providing your email address in return for an offer from this site is completely voluntary and the user therefore has a choice whether or not to disclose your information. You may unsubscribe at any time so that you will not receive future emails.

Sharing of your personal information

Your personal information that we collect as a result of you purchasing our products & services, will NOT be shared with any third party, nor will it be used for unsolicited email marketing or spam. We may send you occasional marketing material in relation to our design services. What Information Do We Collect? If you choose to correspond with us through email, we may retain the content of your email messages together with your email address and our responses.